Dear Moneyist,
I have 2 daughters. Growing up in an agricultural family during the farm crisis was tough. My dad was extremely abusive both physically and mentally. At 12 years old, he would pinch my ears with pliers. He told me once that he loved me, but he treated me like I was a farm worker, and always punished me if I didn’t do things just as he had asked.
He paid $10,000 a piece for my sisters’ weddings, and about the same for their divorces. I got nothing. He said: “Pay for girls. Not boys.” I am 52. Until